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People's So-Called "Perceptions" of the Adult Industry - February 28, 2010



..This week, I had someone I considered a friend judge me on my life and profession. Like a lot of people, she obviously thinks the industry is sleazy and beneath her. This is not the first time this has happened, so I'd like to address some myths about the Adult industry. Yes, there are exceptions to the rule, but here we go:

-Most people in the industry are decent people, not sleazy or any other shitty adjective you can think of. Some of the nicest, loyal and all around best people I have met in my life has some kind of job in Adult. I have done a lot in the industry and made friends with writers, studio owners, sales people, etc. And some of these people, I could be friends with for my lifetime.

-Porn is a way better industry than the Hollywood one (insert any Hollywood cliche here). People don't step on you to get ahead and they pay you money when they owe you (generally). Adult is a smaller industry and people tend to act right (and I'm not talking about Donny Long) because they know they will more than likely deal with that person in another capacity. And, I'm sure a lot of it has to do with decency.

-Porn chicks and others who work in the industry are not all alcoholics, drug addicts or completely loco. Yes, there are some of both, as there are in any group of people. But, most people are in check.

-People in porn do date each other a lot of the time. Know why? Because they get each other. There's no weirdness about what you do during the day or judgments about how much porn you own. You're not a weird or a freak, you just are. "Civilians" find this hard to understand.

-And while we're on the subject, everyone is porn is not a whore--some of us are sluts (sluts don't get paid, whores do). Yes, we like sex and we're probably just a little more honest about our sexuality and how much we really like sex, rather than being cold, frigid and unhappy, like 80-90% of society.

-Porn parties and industry events are a lot of fun. Yes, some freakiness and sex go on at them, but that's like a few people in a crowd of a thousand plus.

-The porn industry is suffering, like any other industry. I used to think Napster was A-OK. It's not and neither are free tube sites. DVD and VOD sales have dropped, but we're going to rebound in 2010. When the economy gets a boost, that will help, too.

I think if someone is a close friend or family member, they shouldn't judge you on your profession or industry. My dad suggested I don't tell people what I do for a living, like my friends or the people I date. I believe people should love you for who you are and how you conduct yourself in this short time on earth. I love what I do and my clients and I'm fortunate to be able to earn a living doing what I really enjoy. How many people can say that? I'm going to get off my soapbox now. Please feel free to comment.