We had 13 people at the meeting tonight, and 4 members at the Intergroup business meeting downtown. Robert celebrated 7 years sobriety, and those of us who were around 10 years or so ago, were thrilled to see Glen. He was a regular when I first started, then dropped out of sight. He has been sober, attending an occasional meeting elsewhere, but he was glad to be back.

Step Nine - Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Talk tonight seemed to center around parents. Some people had a good, long discussion with a parent, but that seemed rare. Most of the time, it seems we do not need to say too much to those close to us, it is awkward. But some recognition that wrongs have been committed must be made.

This is a sponsorship step. Going at this too early or with the wrong motive sometimes results in disaster. For most of us, our sponsor whittled down the list. And while it is not helpful to rehearse a dialog, having a general idea of what to say and how to say it is a good idea.

It was said that it is better to use the word "wrong" than "sorry" for several reasons.

This can also involve money, one needs to be prepared to pay money back or make arrangements to do so, when making amends to those we owe.

Another theme tonight was teenage children. This brought up the general way to approach an amend without seeming to grovel. We admit we were wrong, express regret, and be willing to set things right, as best we can.

Sometimes, the best amends we can make is to stay away. Other times, a visit to a gravesite may be appropriate.

Many of us have repaired relationships with parents, spouses, employers, and children. We learn a lot about our relationships with these amends steps. This has given me the courage to admit mistakes in general, and to have a sincere desire not to harm others.

Next week, step ten. Keep Comin' Back!

-Chuck, Vegetarian fanboy