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Nope, it's one phone call period. One call that's not returned (and since everyone has caller ID, that's one phone call period). You might conceivably stretch that to another phone call a few days later, but that's it.

Right now, I'm dealing with a chica pulling a Seinfeldian routine: we went out once, and I didn't really like her that much (we'd known each other a few years ago, and the years have not been kind. She looks like a screaming skeleton with a dried yet oily layer of greasepaint stuck on her skull.) Her birthday was the next week, and she kept calling to see if I would take her out. The only thing I could feel watching her number pop up on caller ID was (a.) annoyance and (b.) disgust at the whiff of desperation. We went out once: get a fucking friend.

So no, she wasn't right to manipulate history, but believe me, abide by the Brass Rule and you'll never have that problem. One phone call, and if it's not returned, then have a nice life.



Your legal mind is almost too logical Arab...you are of course 100% correct and everything you have described is true, but what sucks is life is jusssst unpredictable enough, and enough flukes happen to give people that modicum of hope they cling to in situations like this...if your call/letter/e-mail/singing telegram isnt returned or reciprocated, there MIGHT have been a compelling reason....the cable went out, death in the family, dead battery, or a bird flying into the transformer etc etc etc. Add into the mix the fact that most people can't, or wont, say what they really feel or be honest (with themselves ... and others) and you have the recipe for 93% of all so-called "relationship/romantic/stalking" stories and dramas. It boggles the mind the time people can and DO waste...which is why, tongue in cheek, I enourage AC to just flat out be honest about things RIGHT FROM THE START and get on with life and avoid situations like this.

I do this not out of a overweening sense of obligation to help those less fortunate than me, but really for my own self edification and affirmation I am doing the right thing(s) for myself...As socially (not "morally"... "SOCIALLY") questionable as paying for sex may seem sometimes, it eliminates much of this voracious waste of time and anxiety...and believe it or not, many of my best female Friends are in the sex business, simply because the games/hassle/pride-power-selfconscious bullshit is eliminated, and the "phone calls", when they are made, are always answered or interpreted properly....its either business or friendship... Of course, I am not necessarily referring to someone like "Roxy", but women who have their head(s) on fairly straight and who can communicate effectively enough to understand them during unemotional periods...

But honesty/openness, which we all roll our eyes at and sigh and groan as being "too much to ask", would help maximize the enjoyment and take advantage of the time we all have on this floating mudball...You could almost flowchart the process/dialogue: Hypothetically, if AC approaches a porn chick (it could be Christie or any of his other girls...) and asks within the first 20 minutes "Is there even a chance in hell you'd fuck me/blow me/jerk me off, if I am the most charming, funny, smoothest dancer/conversationalist/gourmet-chef/pizza-orderer you've ever met (which I am NOT)?"....her honest answer would clarify and streamline the rest of the process...If Yes, express amazment and get it on, if NO, proceed to "friendsville", and if AC persists in trying to cuddle or talk dirty on the phone then you have your clear cut case of a Stalking Cream-zilla. If the answer is NO, AC can follow up with the aforementioned "How about if I pay?" question/scenario to the chick, which again rates HIGH in the openness/honesty chart but leaves him open to a knee to the nuts in addition to dealing with stalking accusations. If cash for gash is an option then he gets his real subconscious desire underneath the affectated "friends" longing AND the possibility of an actual client/therapist friendship with the porn chick once he has experienced what it feels like having his sausage in the chick's mouth or what his high cholesterol semen looks like on her comely visage....

Honesty and Openness are the enemies of Delusion and the cure for Delusional people ... and if the chica is in fact the blameworthy agent in the whole mess, then you have undercut her emotional firepower right from the start by being honest about your desires and intentions. But what is ironic, that I find puzzling, is that PORN chicks should as a rule be OPEN and Down to earth, given the fact that they are prancing bareass all over TVs and computers in the most exposed state possible for bi-podal intelligent creatures....why the fuck is it so hard to say what you think and feel if you can show it so easily? Damn, one question/issue begets more....this man is a menace...
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