I saw this posted on CL and it's probably one the best things I've ever read. I just had to post it here. Enjoy.

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Finally a new kind of post to start the new year!

NO this was not part of some New Year's Resolution (who ever sticks to those? I sure as hell never could), but this happened about a month ago.

I didn't get into porn until some time after high school. Sure in high school and before, I saw an occasional porno flick (back then, it wasn't as rampant and easily accessable as it is now), but with the influx of the internet and the WWW, I got into it.

An ex-girlfriend of mine found out about my addiction and I hid it from her many times, lied about it, quit on and off, and tried to "justify" why there was a valid reason for porn (and how I thought there was no harm), but deep down, I knew it was wrong. See, I used to think that because my mother was never there for me when I was a baby and the fact that women as treated me like shit (cheating, lying, dumping me, etc), that porn was my "revenge" on those that did me wrong. But I know that porn was probably the main reason our relashionship went on a downward spiral. I went to a couple of Sex and Love Addicts Annonymous group meetings and met some inspirational people. Though I didn't return for more meetings, I still remembered everything I learned.

Funny thing is, even though my ex and I broke up, off and on I saw porn again, up until about a month ago, and for whatever reason, the lessons of porn abuse just reminded me of what my ex girlfriend tried to teach me - that porn is just NOT OK. That what I was looking at was hurting me. That who I was looking at were SOMEONE ELSE'S DAUGHTERS. That what I believed my reasons for watching it where not valid no matter what happened to me in the past. I don't want to be a victim of today's porn-ridden society. And more importantly, were damaging my ex's self esteem. I deeply love her to this day and I realize how I hurt her. That makes me sad, but makes me happy knowing she is the only one that reached me after all these blind years.

I must say that of all the bad habits I have given up in recent years, this is the one I am most proud of. And for the record, my ex and I are still dear friends. Next time you look at porn, please reconsider and evaluate the cituation and your reasons for looking at it. They may be just a little deeper than loneliness, horniness, thrill, or escaping reality.

* this is in or around PORN OUT OF MY LIFE

Why!? Why!? Why!?

Porn is great you shouldn't have gave it up! You're just pussy-whipped, it seems.

Rule No. 1 for watching porn should be to not take it so seriously. Lexi Lovetwat and Johnny McSpankpants are not their real names, and in that view none of it is real in the truest sense of the word. Sure, they are doing real acts. But they are still actors making a movie, albeit with a lower budget than most of what Hollywood puts out and with a lot less story.

It's somebody's daughter, just like every girl is. That doesn't stop you from having sex (at least it shouldn't) and it shouldn't be the main reason for not watching porn.

I have to say that I don't like the fact that Sex Addicts Anonymous got involved, either. Whether it is AA or any of the other affiliated groups, I don't like them because the first step is admitting that you have a problem and that you are powerless to overcome it. Obviously not, since his ex isn't the one that made him stop watching... he is. He could have done it at anytime.

Long story short, this guy is a total douchebag. And that's my final thought.