First off, I am not your sweetie... second, I think my website is doing just fine.
I keep my forum for members only so it isn't filled with crazies... and trust me, I get hundreds of them a day. We tried to have a non pay forum, but it ended up being a full time job for moderators... i have bigger fish to fry, and so do my webmasters...
But, thanks for the advice!

JJ