Uh; every KIA name would and has been listed throughout time. Just look up all the names from Nam and the first gulf war. Black Ops or not they are still in the service and as such the names would be there.
Just my 2cents as a person that spent time in an elite group, with several friend that made the list.
May they rest in peace.
As for Nicole's story, I really have a hard time with it. There are just too many inconsistences. But what the hell, truth or lie, she has to live with it.