You've got sex appeal all right, but you may be overdoing it a bit. There's nothing wrong with making yourself attractive to men, but going after guys with the hard sell isn't going to get you very far if what you want is a healthy, long-lasting relationship. In fact, your femme fatale act may backfire. Instead of drawing guys in, those desperation vibes may actually push them away. Sure, cleavage-exposing blouses, slinky skirts and come-hither looks will have guys flocking to you like Monday Night Football, but their interest in you will surely diminish soon after the first, uh, touchdown. If you want men to stick around and get to know you (and not just your body), tone down the super sexy routine and work on developing true sex appeal -- confidence, poise and a positive attitude.


It may help for you to ask yourself why you feel the need to portray yourself as such a sexual dynamo. If not having a man in your life makes you feel empty, you may be trying to fill that void with all the male attention you get from flaunting your sexiness. Or insecurity could be behind your seductress act -- are you scared men won't be interested in your other, nonsexual qualities? Another possibility may be that you believe that all men want is a woman whose appearance and behavior scream "sex." Fortunately, that is far from true, especially when it comes to long-term relationships. What men want is a women who is confident and comfortable with herself, someone they enjoy spending time with, can relax with and respect and, yes, are attracted to -- on the outside and the inside.