i would think she is more traumatized by having to deal with Pumper. coincidentally, he works out at my gym, and since I do hours of cardio which overlooks the gym floor, i get to watch him "workout" for long stretches. basically he stalks multiple girls, talks to them for long stretches while they try to work on a machine, and then saunters off to the next girl. 3 people who saw me say hello to him have told me that he follows girls to their cars and he is a creepy stalker. yikes!