I am a generous and gentle partner. I have a very large cock for the non-meat puppet population and that has led me to be extra-careful with lady friends and considerate of their needs (all their needs). The touchy-feely in the bar is an adaptive mechanism designed to feel out whether the dick size is going to be a problem. As you know, there are some women who are turned on by a large johnson, and others are rendered quite fearful. It's better to find that out in advance.