Unintended cold turkey. BJs and shaking or whatever else. Good luck.

I asked myself about the self-loathing because the village relations in the example included a racial aspect which regularly comes up in porn. tritone knows.
The pride of some people's directly connected to their understanding of virility and with it their dicks. A good start.
The penis envy thing a lot of Caucasian folk stick on the in their minds oh so primitive and allegedly without exception massively hung black porn mopes is common also.