It's all psychological and a matter of perspective. If you feel and radiate your negative reflections of what was of the past, then you're surely to attract those people and difficult events in life. You capture most peoples attention by being negative about something. It will always be entertained.

Accepting your choices, reality and taking it with a greater perspective makes a worldly difference. One being better people, better people who accept you for who you are. Nobody wants to be around those who are ashamed of themselves.

That's too bad. She was amazing at what she did. She could make a man she spends her life with very, very happy.