and where are you shooting your ugly ass content at? def not in la, please tell me where you can shoot a scene for $1400 and have it edited and enclude the set costs.. here it is for ya

hosting- $1k/month, yeah, thats for a good host, check out national net, or cave creek

graphics- site desing, members area, banners, affiliate area,promo tools hosted galleries -$10k

members area software- $4k, or do you know how to program it yourself, check out http://mansionproductions.com/

content
need 25 video scenes to start, 12 to go live, then 1 update a week every week.
need to shoot as much as possible. cost per shoot $3500 depending on what the concept of the site is, a gangbang site is more $$ than a girl/girl site, plus editing. unless you want some boring ass site where the dude bangs his ugly wife and you live somewhere else. in la a girl is $800-$900 and a solid guy is $400-$600, please check any agency in la.

traffic- $5k/month (you need to get people to go to your site, so you have to buy it, sorry you dont know what the fuck this is)
google adwords
exit console trades
email
buy cross sales
pre paid joins

affiliate program- again see http://mansionproductions.com/
software $4k
will need hosted galleries -images/movies
free content
banners
ads

processing-
cascade billing- ccbill = $750 visa fee, epoch = $750 visa fee
sorry you didnt know it costs money to to set up with these 3rd prarty processors, do you even know what that is?

budget break down:
content- $87,500 approx
procesion- $1500
traffic- $5k/month
software- $8k
graphics- $10k
hosting- $1k/month
salary- $7k (well this is how much i would charge someone to run their site/program, since i know what im doing, unlike yourself

flat costs- $120,000

recurring cost- $12k/month 12 months (salary and traffic deals)

total- $264000 over 12 months

so you can spend the money to have a good looking site, or you can do the graphics, programming, yourself and hire your ugly friends to fuck and spend way less money and have a site that reflects that.