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#474586 - 02/05/10 06:37 PM
Give me your advice! Now dammit!!
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
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Loc: Mississippi
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I am too drunk now to find it right now, but a while ago I posted on here that I heard from an old girlfriend sort of "out of the blue" in an e-mail in which she gave me her new address.
This girl was every embarrassing head-over-heels, puppy love, schoolboy crush fantasy I ever had who broke up with me and broke my heart.
Ever read the book "The Godfather"? Not the movie, the book. It talks about "the thunderbolt". I was walking to the cafeteria one day in college surrounded by a crowd of other college students when I saw this girl ahead of me. I'll remember this day forever. I was struck by "The Thunderbolt" that day when I saw her walking ahead of me. A couple of years later I was shocked to meet her again. She was engaged and I was in a relationship. I dumped my girlfriend and pursued this chick with an energy I have never had before or since. We dated for several years before she broke up with me after I moved to another state to continue my education.
Now she found me online and it appears (but I do not know for sure) that she has separated from her husband (who she dumped me to date) and is now single again, and we have been trading e-mails for the last few days.
OK, you perverts, that is the background.
Would you pursue a woman who once dumped you but for whom you still carried a torch, or would you just move on?
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474587 - 02/05/10 06:43 PM
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Hell yes man, what's the worst that could happen?
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#474590 - 02/05/10 06:52 PM
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If you're not gonna marry the one you've got now, why not call for the lefty out of the bullpen?
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#474591 - 02/05/10 06:52 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
Posts: 1541
Loc: Mississippi
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Hmmmmmm...
Is a bird in the hand worth two in the bush?
a.k.a.
Is a cute girl in a relationship worth a world class hottie and former crush not in a relationship?
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474592 - 02/05/10 07:15 PM
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We have a conundrum. Tell you what, put up some pics of each, their kinkiness ratings, blowjob abilities and so on, and we'll put it to a vote. Whaddya say, what better gang of folks to make such a difficult decision for you? 
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#474593 - 02/05/10 07:29 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
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You know what? I am not, on principle, opposed to doing that. However, reality and common sense make it unlikely to happen.
Kinkiness, the ex wins hands down.
Blowjob, current girlfriend wins by a head.
Personality, goes to current girlfriend.
Face, body, and sense of humor goes to ex.
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474597 - 02/05/10 08:26 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
Posts: 1541
Loc: Mississippi
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for you or me?
Isn't real life better than the hypothetical?
To dump the steady plain Jane for the uncertainty of an old flame.
To forgive being dumped and give things another chance at the expense of ego.
To move forward or go back for another chance.
To be pragmatic or romantic.
Here is a real life crossroads, not a hypothetical question. Here is where things matter. Here is where the rest of my life begins.
It isn't silly and it does go somewhere. It charts the rest of my life from this day to my grave.
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474600 - 02/06/10 06:58 AM
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why the fuck are you asking this forum? do what all other southern white trash does in this situation. gather up the two fat asses and go on 'The Jerry Springer Show'.
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#474602 - 02/06/10 08:36 AM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
Posts: 1541
Loc: Mississippi
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This is a very specific type of population on XPT. I hardly think I am revealing any great secret to agree with you that I want to know how people think about certain things more than I am looking for guidance. It is more about curiosity than uncertainty over what I'm really gonna do.
I would not be posting this, or any other similar type question on a forum like this, if there had not already been a difference of opinion from people in real life. I have posted many similar threads to this one and I have always enjoyed the responses even when I disagreed with them (about 99.9% of them).
Here is a real life decision I am making, not a hypothetical situation, not some unrealistic bullshit theory about what you would do if you were the president or if you ran the Fed. I am gonna make it with or without opinions from XPT. I think it is fun to challenge some people to respond to real life questions who have atrophied decision making skills. Posing these questions on XPT while drunk is a lot like going to the special Olympics while stoned. Sometimes you get inspired, but most of the time it is just good clean entertainment that makes you feel better about yourself when it is over.
If there has been a pile on here, I think I missed it.
There is a real life situation here, a real life difference of opinions from close friends and family, and I'm loving the chance to hear that unexpected gem from my XPT Special Olympics family that really makes me stop and think. You know, I almost always get some unexpected good advice here even if I already had my mind made up.
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474604 - 02/06/10 12:46 PM
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Chill, Winston! It seems to me this is a topic that resonates with some of us here, at least those among us with the requisite looks and emotional maturity to engage in adult relationships with women that don't charge by the hour. At the very least, it's good drinking convo. 
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#474605 - 02/06/10 12:54 PM
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I had a young man enrolled at my college. He gave advice to another student, Kent Dorfmann.
It was, "My advice to you is to start drinking heavily".
The young man was also in Pre-Med.
I think this advice is applicable in your situation.
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#474611 - 02/06/10 03:37 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
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You can't stop yourself can you? Sign of a true addict.
Because I know when I find a thread uninteresting I usually post on it over and over.
Don't you see why you amuse me? Why you make me laugh (at not with)?
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474613 - 02/06/10 03:48 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
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I've always said you can tell everything about a man by the supporters he attracts. Game. Set. Match. Case closed. 
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474619 - 02/06/10 04:32 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
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Down to 5 minutes.
"Yeah"
Edited by E.Y.Davis (02/06/10 04:33 PM)
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#474620 - 02/06/10 04:46 PM
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Human Garbage
Registered: 04/02/09
Posts: 1541
Loc: Mississippi
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Holy Shit, it has been more than 10 minutes since his last response.
Somebody call 911, Pipedream must be pinned under something heavy and for once it isn't my cock.
Hey, Pipedream, "yeah"?
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474622 - 02/07/10 07:41 PM
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Human Garbage
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You do kinda get the big picture, so I have to decide how much to quibble over the finer details since they don't really matter a whole lot.
For the relationship challenged, I will point out that there is no reason to cheat on anybody if you are interested in being with somebody else. Either break up outright or effectively break up (by allowing the other one to call it quits on you) by claiming that you want to see other people. Obviously, the financial burden of dissolving a marriage makes that more of a problem for married folks than it does for unmarried folks. But I'm one of the unmarried folk, so I have no financial pressure to cheat instead of just breaking up.
So, back to the topic. No, she didn't say that she was separated from her husband. She vaguely hinted that things were not going well combined with writing e-mails more often which tells me that the possibility of exploiting a situation exists. It would take a hell of a lot of work on my part, without any guarantee of success, to make it happen and I wouldn't embark on that without first severing my current relationship (hence the bird in the hand reference I used earlier).
Nice personality means presentable, socially acceptable, and less prone to nagging, not necessarily "fun to be with". I already know my current relationship isn't going anywhere, and I was already considering breaking up before I go to California for vacation since I wouldn't "just hire an escort" while still in a relationship any more than I would pursue an old flame while still in a relationship, and I was definitely considering both options.
If you can't understand the Desire, then the proposition doesn't make sense. But if you don't understand that desire you can't understand why Sharon Stone wants James Woods in Casino (the explanation given in the movie ain't it), why The Great Gatsby wants Daisy, a thousand other examples in movies or books, or a just a big giant part of human nature. If you don't understand that feeling for somebody, well, I don't know whether to envy you or pity you.
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.
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#474623 - 02/08/10 01:44 PM
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Sex Slave Trader
Registered: 06/06/09
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But I'm one of the unmarried folk, so I have no financial pressure to cheat instead of just breaking up.
So you don't live with each other?
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No, she didn't say that she was separated from her husband. She vaguely hinted that things were not going well combined with writing e-mails more often which tells me that the possibility of exploiting a situation exists.
What the FUCK? Run and never look back! This bitch is bad news!! Next you'll find her husband at your door and your corpse will be making the evening news. Things don't go well for many people but they stay and try to make it work. They don't reach out to an ex and try to rekindle what they once had. Most women will not leave their husbands. Children, money, family pressure. She didn't even say she's getting a divorce but wants to hook up you and God knows how many other exes.
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I already know my current relationship isn't going anywhere
Why are you with her? Oh, the guaranteed sex and what's available at the moment. And people wonder why I bitch about men.
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If you can't understand the Desire, then the proposition doesn't make sense. But if you don't understand that desire you can't understand why Sharon Stone wants James Woods in Casino (the explanation given in the movie ain't it), why The Great Gatsby wants Daisy, a thousand other examples in movies or books, or a just a big giant part of human nature. If you don't understand that feeling for somebody, well, I don't know whether to envy you or pity you.
That doesn't last. You still think I want to be fucked like a rag doll when I'm 80-years-old. I'm looking at the bigger picture. I want stability. All you're thinking about is sex but that fire does fade. She's still married and hasn't even mentioned she's leaving him. "Kinkiness" means drama and it's what got Sharon Stone killed in Casino.
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#474625 - 02/09/10 06:31 AM
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#474627 - 02/09/10 07:50 AM
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#474632 - 02/09/10 02:39 PM
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Is it too late for advice or have you and P D(petey) already moved in together?.
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