Personally, I think you take a step closer to compassion and acceptance when you lay blame where it rightly belongs (when it belongs at your own doorstep); and only avoid both when you blame others for how you feel.

Sure it may be trite, but nobody makes you feel anything.
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--Some of us look for The Way in opium and some in God, some of us in whiskey and some in love. It is all the same Way and it leads nowhither.