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Actually I meant something like literature or art which is classified as pornography due to it's transgressive nature. I read books and have art which is classified as pornographic yet it isn't necessarily about two people engaged in coitus.

You said you were once with a woman that didn't like you watching porn but knew you did it. I think what most women fear is that men turn into blithering idiots when they watch porn, lustfully craving for the porn whores and willing to spend their last dollar to be with them. As soon as a woman senses competition then you get the scenario where you're given an ultimatum or she leaves.

As for your problems: I believe it's up to you. You can give up porn to satisfy this girl if you think she's worth it (a few people from here did and left forever). I just really think the whole sneaking around thing is kind of silly though it's probably the route many resort to.





I don't think it is a personal issue at all, I just thought it was a good bit of advice for guys who sometimes forget that men and women are different.

It is a lot like advising guys not to post pictures of themselves online (like their myspace or facebook page) without a shirt on, flexing their muscles. An immature or unwise young man might think that if he likes seeing pictures of women without their clothes on, and since he wants a red-blooded heterosexual young woman who is into men and likes sex, he'll post a "hot" picture of himself online with his shirt off and the women will love it. Some women get all wet and horny seeing a picture of a guy without his shirt on, but most do not.

Furthermore, I'd say that most average guys don't really want a woman who "responds" to pictures of strange guys with their shirts off online, or who gives out her phone number to guys who whistle at her on the street, or who gets off on your "Throat Gaggers" movies as much as you do.

I do think it is wise advice though, and if I ever have a son, I will tell him that men and women are different, and an example of one of those differences is that most women are not into porn in the same way men are, just like the way most guys are not into shoes the way women are. I will tell my daughter that guys really aren't into shoe shopping and she probably doesn't want to start dating guys who are into women's shoes as much as she is. Sharing porn is a lot like shoe shopping--most of the time one person in the relationship is more into it than the other and it usually splits along gender lines.

I would tell my son not to scratch his balls while talking to his girlfriend's mother, not to send pictures of his dick to a woman hoping to impress her and turn her on, and not to offer to share his porn collection with his girlfriend just because she asks what he likes. Maybe in an established relationship you can start to let things gradually "leak out" over time, but not at the beginning.


I don't mind dating a woman who can drink me under the table, and who belches and farts with abandon, but I don't want to marry one. I feel the same way about porn. I don't want to marry "one of the guys" or my drinking buddy or even somebody just like me.

I don't begrudge you or any other man or woman on the planet from being in a relationship with whoever makes you happy though.
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