Claire I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend tried doing that to me when we started to date. Although we both ahd made it clear that we dont want a sort of relationship just friends. It stayed that way but not for long. The moment he opened his mouth I said, "You can walk away right now and save me all the trouble of your drama of what you can not handle. You met me in the midst of doing this and if it's something you can not handle then take it elsewhere. I realize I'm stronge enough to not need you but only desire you in my life as someone no one else would be but you can't see my ability to differentiate things in my life. So either leave now or never bring it up again afterall you didn't want a relationship to begin with"

he stood there for a couple minutes kinda shocked and didnt know what to say. I was sure he'd walk away which at the time I wasn't attached enough to let it bother me. But he told me later that he thought about it and realized it was an insecurity he needs to work on and is willing to work on that. So things have worked out in the last year since then. Our agreement is to not discuss work all the time. He wont talk about his stresses at work and I wont talk about who I fucked that day. Leaving us with plenty of other things to talk about in our lives and our lives together.

It's hard but Claire... if he's not willing to work things out then its not worth wasting your time. Waste your time in porn where you're happy and soon enough that man will sweep you off your feet and love you for every bit that you do.

XOXO