The "kids" are 18 and 20 years old. They are old enough to handle the reality that their mother loves cock more than an invisible mythical figure and if anything should leave the church just off the basis that the Church is blackmailing their mother. Its sounds like blackmail/extortion to me. Sounds like the church just doesn't want to lose donations or sees an opportunity to grift a nice size payload out of the mother and her boyfriend to make this situation go away or they will try to ruin her family.