Hey Darrah, nice to see you back and writing some great stuff here. It's funny that even though we were once on such opposite sides, we have so much in common as well. Good questions but the answers all lie in Control! As long as it all stays this way, They keep Control!!

And Fatman, you are correct. Women can be even more cruel than men more times than not. Look at our industry and you can see the women who have been here and know the ropes. They don't normally share their knowledge and they don't use their positions to better The Biz. Some of these women actually think that they had to go through all the shit so any other girl coming into The Biz has to earn her right to be here same way! It's bullshit but it's true. You know how many times we've heard "you can't call yourself a Pornstar, you haven't been in The Biz long enough to earn that right".

Out with the old and in with the New is my theme for 2009. The industry is changing and it's time this kind of control changes with it. The girls are what porn is all about so why is it that only a few really make it here? What did they have to go through and give up to in order to get there??

I think if we all look at who's considered Tops out there today, we'll find some of those answers staring right back at us