I think you are a lucky one then. I've been to swinger parties in San Diego, LA and Vegas and it's hit or miss a lot of the time. The Lust parties were great for a while. They had a strict guest list that was partly based on appearance. But more often then not a party is 20 unattractive couples and 3 attractive ones.

One of the best parties I ever went to was in Vegas. I can't remember the name off the top of my head. But it was invitation only and you had to be referred in. They only had 10 couples and all of them were under 40 and hot. Sexually it was probably the best night of my life.

I've been to parties with single males allowed and it's pretty hot to watch some random cougar take on 15 guys in a row. Even if she isn't hot as a porn star, she's also not doing it for a paycheck. She's just a dirty slut and that can be very attractive.