blahhh just identified the two factors for 90% of the unwanted drama at swinger parties -- single males and jealousy. The single male problem is easy to solve. Just don't invite them or admit them. The jealousy problem is harder to solve. Some people just aren't cut out for swinging. Either they are just too inhibited or think swinging will save their already failing relationship. Too often they disover in a group setting that it won't -- much to the discomfort of everyone else at the party.