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I love the fact that young adults are far more sexually sophisticated today



Is one of your children a girl?



Two of them, The nurse and the teacher in training.
The ages of all the kids are 21,22,23, & 24. The two girls (22 & 24) are mine, the two boys are my girlfriend's (we've been together 18 years last February).

My daughters were in their early teens when I started working in adult. By the time they got older they started using it as sort of a bragging right at parties or to piss of their mom.
While they have watched porn (who hasn't) they have no interest beyond that. Sex had never been a taboo subject in our home and all the kids knew how and where babies came from at some level from the time they could start asking questions.
Both my daughters are sexually active, one started a 17 the other at 19. I want my children to have happy and healthy sex lives. Mine's been great, wouldn't that make me a hypocrite if I wish less for them.


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1) Don't lie to them.

2) Always tell them the truth.



So, you've never lied to your children? Bullshit. Btw, your 1 & 2 are the same thing.



What would I have to lie to them about? I can't conceive of a single thing in my life that they are not aware of. They are my family, what do I have to hide from them?

And yes, 1 & 2 are similar, but not the same. There is a distinction.

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It's obvious your wife raised the children because that's the most inconsistent naive approach to raising children I've ever read.



Certainly my ex, as well as my girlfriend's ex, had shared custody of their respective children but they all lived with us except for certain holidays, vacations, and scheduled weekends.

I never laid a hand on any of my children in anger.
I never lied to them about life matters, emotions, or reality.
My children grew up respecting me because I respected them for the human beings that they were.
They all had fuck ups along the way, some of them fairly major, but not one of them hesitated to call for help out of fear over how I'd react. They knew they were in trouble and there would be consequences, but they also knew I would help them without hesitation and they had nothing to fear from me other than my disappointment.

We must have done something right because they are all motivated, critically thinking individuals who have entered into adulthood quite nicely.
All of them have worked to pay for their own educations, cars, etc. All we ever provided was a home, food, and family support. Only the youngest, the sculptor, still lives at home.

The secret isn't really a secret; treat others the way you want to be treated (even children). You don't want to be lied to, don't lie to others. You don't want to be hit, don't hit others. It's really not a tough philosophy to understand and seems pretty consistent to me.

The hard part is patience and perseverance. That's what bad parents aren't willing to put forth an effort on. It's easier to dominate a child to get the immediate result you desire. All that teaches is fear and hatred. Duh.
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