Personally I don't think its that big a deal if someone doesn't want to work with you ( or maybe i'm just used to it through so many rejections growing up! ). Apparently in porn there's so many people who flake anyway that I really don't think directors would have much of an issue with it either. If someone said no I think i'd just accept it. I think if you make an issue of it you can be kind of bullying sometimes. You make the girl feel bad and make it harder for them to change their mind about you in the future because suddenly it becomes this big deal to everybody and the girl can feel alienated not just from you but all your friends as well. Suddenly she feels like an outcast. It may have not even been a big deal to her anyway - maybe she just wasn't sure of you, but suddenly it becomes like a huge embarrassing issue. Then in situations like this if you do change your mind you feel like people will laugh and point and you might lose respect, not because you mind working with him but just to be seen as having been of a certain opinion and then suddenly going against it. Some people are of really open personalities and may have no problems but for more private sensitive people it can be hard

I think girls should always feel special and respected and like a princess!