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Fatman- I'm confused about what you want in a woman, am I right in thinking you want a girl who should be strong, yet weak,



No. I see no weakness in what I said. No weakness AT ALL.

Unhappy weak women tend to be all "conflict". Nowadays urban women tend to equate sweetness with weakness. It is UNTRUE. Sweet woman can be very very strong.

I like the saying that women are like teabags. You never know how strong she is until she's been in hot water awhile.

I happen to like my "strong tea" very sweet and not at all bitter.


I want her strong enough to stand up for herself, and strong to withstand submission when asked, and fair enough to conclude that I don't ask for much.

Honestly, I know many women like this. Besides sexual relationships, I cannot have a friendship with a woman if she isn't some mix of sweet, smart, strong and fair.

My problem in sexual relationships is that I disappear internally when unhappy/troubled. I don't trust/value asking for help, and I try to solve all of my problems alone. And, the girl is left to feel unloved and/or unneeded. Which is very unfair of me. And, the girls I choose are smart and strong enough to get up and leave when their needs aren't fairly being met.

So, it's something I'm trying to address.


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gainfully employed yet willing to share her goodies when you snap



I'm not sure what you are asking.

I don't believe in sharing assets.

Hers are hers. Mine are mine. Often she has had more. I'm not a taker.

I would never expect a girl to be sexual because I "snapped my fingers". When I'm talking about submission, it isn't sex I'm talking about. It's like when a value of mine is being violated.

For example of areas I DEMAND submission, "You will stay out of arguments between my sister and me. END OF STORY. NO DISCUSSION." "You will not touch my baseball cards. If you need boxes moved, you will ask me and I will comply immediately." "You will not throw out my beloved pair of ratty sneakers." "I am not going to your sister's house if her Nazi husband is there." "I'm not feeling well. I need you to be quiet tonight. You can sit on my lap, but, please, you cannot talk."



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but would rather live alone because all women are an emotional trip to Conflict city????



All women are NOT an emotional trip to "conflict city". I LOVE talking to women. I leave XPT from time to time since there aren't many fun women to play with in part because there's far too much woman hatred.

And, yes, I would rather live alone than deal with constant conflict. If I'm going to be in "the trenches", I want to be paid and paid well. I'm good at conflicts, but I HATE THEM. I view constant conflict at home as ABUSE.

I want someone who is nurturing whom I can nurture. I don't want someone to work out their personality problems by creating conflicts where none actually exist.

For me, fights are to be won and the adversary is to be destroyed. I don't want someone in my house I have to destroy. I accept that Life is conflict. But, I believe you work things out with easy manner in low volume conversations with validation of feelings/needs and honest intelligent exchanges - NOT with barbed insults and shouting attacks.


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LOL, If I got that right i'm almost insulted by your statements of truth and honesty.



OK. Sorry if I insulted you.


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That sounds like an interesting wish list. Do girls hear that and then get MORE clingy thinking they can change you?.



Strong, smart girls aren't very "clingy".

The only things girls have really tried to change about me are either style related [clothes, hair] and or related to getting me to be less of a slob.

They are often successful with the first, since I'll put on whatever it is they want me to wear as long as it's physically comfortable. I don't mind being a dress-up doll. I don't have any style sense, so someone is going to have to dress me for me to look good.

But, I'm always going to be a slob.

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