both. oh, i forgot the best part then i'll shut up about it. he finally goes down to walgreens to get me a valentine's day card, you know, sort thru the shitty ones no one else bought. he took $40 out of MY wallet for this, keeps the $37 or whatever change! i miss the good old days like our ninth wedding anniversary when he got me "sodomy cream pies" and the new issue of "taboo."