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#278754 - 10/02/07 02:55 PM Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Haley
Postmortem Offline
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Registered: 07/17/07
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In the main, the sex industry attracts women who are troubled and disenfranchised: emotionally, financially, educationally, etc. The number of true porn exhibitionists--women, in other words, who would do this sort of thing for the sort of pay they would receive at the other jobs they are qualified to do (usually Starbucks cashier work)--are few (and of those, probably most have psych problems, traumatic pasts, etc.). I think we all can accept this much.

Porn work doesn't necessarily create the problems these women have, but it very often exacerbates them, and in almost no cases does it help to rectify them. You might think of it as a petri dish for growing desperation. You need the seeds, but the porn industry just provides a fertile environment that stimulates their growth.

We all should be sad that Hailey Paige died. But we should also accept that porn probably multiplied this girl's problems, as it does for most of these women.

In short, we as porn consumers are very often feeding on womens' troubles, and I think Warp Speed just brought that out explicitly and took it to its logical conclusion. Very few of these girls who make it out of porn to a relatively normal existence (and don't end up doing MILF-porn work till theyre gray) look back on it as a terrific part of their lives. We are jerking to women who are struggling (even if they're making great money--take one look at multimillioniare Jenna Jameson and tell me she isn't struggling with body image issues, aging, and so forth).

So when we express sadness that Haley died, let us also express some grief about who we are--not just that we did nothing to help her fly straight, but that we did, in all likelihood, actually contribute (as porn consumers and [for some of us] producers) to this woman's misery.

So the next time you post a banana man jerk when you hear a girl did porn just to make rent, or to feed a habit, think about Haley and her demise and what the fuck it is your saying...

To his credit, Warp (perhaps unwittingly) showed us the naked lunch--what it is that's on the end of everyone's forks.

Nancy
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#278755 - 10/02/07 03:02 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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I'm sorry she's dead. I'm sorry for her family left behind. But I am in no way responsible or culpable for her demise. She is ultimately responsible for her death, unless it becomes known she was murdered.

"Porn", "the internet", and "society" did not kill the girl.

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#278756 - 10/02/07 03:14 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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I think that the guilt and shame our puritan culture heaps upon pornstars caused her demise.

Kill the evangelists.





Unleaded gasoline killed Britney Madison.

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#278757 - 10/02/07 03:14 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
MoronBoy Offline
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Registered: 07/30/06
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and the award for "The Most Lubbenesque Post of the Month" goes to...
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#278758 - 10/02/07 03:23 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Soopergrizz Offline
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Registered: 02/23/05
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The concept that porn takes desperate and/or broken people and exploits them is hardly a new concept - very few porn sets are filled with people who gave up a successful career at a merchant bank (Hellooooo Nick Manning).

Porn consumers are no more or less culpable in the fact that many of these poor souls cannot escape from the cesspool than midwesterners who buy Nikes sewn by 10 year old Indonesians or the soccer moms from Orange County that pays the illegal alien $5 to blow their leaves.

It's a tragedy that Hailey/Maryam died so young (whatever the circumstances), but it is for the same reasons that she was 'successful' in her porn career (talk about an oxymoron) - pretty, young and highly sexualized - that people are moved by her untimely death.

I think we will find out that she died because of the very same problems that led her to a career in porn, not as a result of the career itself.
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#278759 - 10/02/07 03:25 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Richard Hungwell Offline
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Fuck Off...!


Coming from someone who has a little girl as Avatar[this is a porn site] means Jack-fucking shit to me...

Fucking Idiot....!
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#278760 - 10/02/07 03:25 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Quote:

I think that the guilt and shame our puritan culture heaps upon pornstars caused her demise.

Kill the evangelists.





Unleaded gasoline killed Britney Madison.






^^^^ agreed

and yes, very lubbenesque judeo-christian "sex is evil" bullshit.

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#278761 - 10/02/07 03:26 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Quote:

I think we will find out that she died because of the very same problems that led her to a career in porn, not as a result of the career itself.




This line says it all.
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#278762 - 10/02/07 03:43 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Loc: Great America
all porn-whores are whores because they want

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#278763 - 10/02/07 03:54 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
safado Offline
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Registered: 04/16/05
Posts: 329
I don't disagree that most women (if not all) in porn are troubled but as a consumer I bare ZERO responsibility in her death or life for that matter.

I'm not the one who molested her when she was a pre teen, I didn't participate in her gang rape in Highschool.

I didn't introduce her to drugs or score for her when she was fiending.

I didn't introduce her to the jiz biz, I never fucked her on camera (or off) and I don't make money off of her work.

So please understand when I say FUCK YOU when you try to cast the blame for her death in my direction because I may or may not have rented a video or two in which she appeared.

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#278764 - 10/02/07 04:01 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Charlie Malloy Offline
Sex Slave Trader

Registered: 01/10/06
Posts: 1487
Loc: NYC
What with the utterly unacceptable images of FEMALE CHILDREN you've had as your avatars for the past week, you surely are biting your tongue while putting that naked lunch to your lips, Queerbot...Playground Cruiser...Nancy.

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#278765 - 10/02/07 04:06 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Charlie Malloy Offline
Sex Slave Trader

Registered: 01/10/06
Posts: 1487
Loc: NYC
Or is that tongue just in your cheek?

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#278766 - 10/02/07 04:11 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
pinupmutant Offline
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Registered: 06/13/06
Posts: 611
Really? None of you are responsible?

Are habitual cocaine users, by driving the demand for coca leaf production, contributing to cartel violence in Columbia and Bolivia and environmental damage as virgin forests are clear cut to make way for coca? Uh-huh.

Are consumers who want cheap sneakers and plastic shit from Walmart supporting child labor in the process? You betcha.

If you drink Napa or Sonoma wine, did a Mexican die in the desert after paying a grand to a coyote for passage so he could work in vineyard for shit pay? Yup.

Do you, porn consumers of XPT, by consuming porn which continues to reach for new lows of violence, degradation, and gross-out cheap stunts, contribute to a cycle of traumatization of already fucked-up young people? Yes, you do.

Fuck Jesus and Shelley Lubben. This is a website that celebrates misanthropy in all its forms. If you're all the badasses that you make yourselves out to be daily basis, then put your money where your mouth is, and simply say:

"Yes, I help porn whores hit rock bottom with every purchase I make, and you know what? I don't care."




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#278767 - 10/02/07 04:12 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
GUAPO Offline
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Posts: 2204
man fuck that shit.. everyone got pain. everyone got shit they got to go through. You think porno sluts the only mufuckers that pain on this earth? man fuck that! What you sell your pussy on film and all of the sudden oyur pain more real than mine? Nigga pain is real!

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#278768 - 10/02/07 04:14 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
pinupmutant Offline
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Registered: 06/13/06
Posts: 611
We are all users in one way or another. There's no point in denying it, is there?

If only Sasha Grey were here to comment on the finer points of nihilism *sigh*

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#278769 - 10/02/07 04:17 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Quote:

Porn consumers are no more or less culpable in the fact that many of these poor souls cannot escape from the cesspool than midwesterners who buy Nikes...




Umm, I said exactly that.
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#278770 - 10/02/07 04:18 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
GUAPO Offline
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the world problem is all y'all have that mcdonals responsible mentality. you know the mentality that bitches burning they coochie with hot cocoa or coffie is the responsiblity of the man who make the coffie too hot not the dumb cunt who spill it all over herself.

in this world coffie hot and bitches die.

end of story

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#278771 - 10/02/07 04:20 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
pinupmutant Offline
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Registered: 06/13/06
Posts: 611
Quote:

Quote:

Porn consumers are no more or less culpable in the fact that many of these poor souls cannot escape from the cesspool than midwesterners who buy Nikes...




Umm, I said exactly that.




Oh, sorry. I was too busy admiring my new Adidas with my feet propped up on an Ethan Allen teak coffee table, enjoying a glass of Cakebread Pinot Noir. Now I think I'll go watch some porn.

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#278772 - 10/02/07 04:31 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
XXXbit Offline
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Registered: 04/12/07
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.....hell if you want to get all religious.....didn't Jesus say "pick up your cross and follow me"

we all have issues...we all have pains........we can't choose what life throws at us but we do have choices in how we deal with it........some people choose to better themselves, some choose to make a way out of no way, hell some get on welfare and let the taxpayers help out....but you know we all have choices....we choose to make good ones or bad ones.....we choose to get help or to not get help....

This is a land of opportunity....this is the place where people die everyday for just a small taste of the opportunities that we ignore or discredit.....this isn't some third world country where people are suffering unspeakable ills.......this is the county that believes in helping people through their "Lifetime" moments.....even a young girls desire to fuck her way to happiness is a viable SHORT TERM OPTION......

yes women with all kind of fucked up problems do porn....but doing porn doesn't make them go away any more than fucking the hottest guy in school will make him like you........

yeah I purchase porn and yeah I like it.....and I would hope I never see one of my students, children, or family members in any of my purchased or rented porn......but you know what.....if they do.....it was by their choice and I know they had others

But then maybe I am jaded cause I work in a field where I see young people piss away opportunites everyday.

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#278773 - 10/02/07 04:38 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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And now that idiot Luke has posted this on his site. Jesus Puke, what the hell? You just cut and paste shit you find online and provide no context or editorial? Do you call yourself a journalist? I hope not. I guess it's just a blog that you don't actually write yourself? WTF is your site anyway?
Most of the confusion and misinformation regarding this story can be blamed on you, Luke Ford. Once again, nice job Putz.
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#278774 - 10/02/07 05:02 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Quote:

Porn ...you might think of it as a petri dish for growing desperation




Thanks for the new quote.
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#278775 - 10/02/07 05:03 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Uomo Grassissimo!! Offline
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Registered: 04/14/06
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Quote:

that idiot Luke has posted this on his site.




The bigger question:

Why do you read his stuff?

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#278776 - 10/02/07 05:44 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Registered: 06/05/05
Posts: 4468
Loc: Great America
why blame porn for all

Owen wilson is a drug addict and nobody blame hollywood
Britney loses her child and nobody blame the music industry
same Amy winhouse, Lindsey lohan ect. ect.
why porn is the excuse to use drugs? nobody forces they to break in industry and do drugs

dont be hypocrites

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#278777 - 10/02/07 06:03 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
6655321 Offline
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Registered: 01/16/07
Posts: 1166
wonderfully put elG.
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#278778 - 10/02/07 06:48 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
christianxxx Offline
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Posts: 2134
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i dont disagree with the first paragraph of her statement. but you are taking the blame away from the girl and you arent taking into account that she is an adult with her own free will. i just cant get behind the theory that we as a society are somehow supposed to mentor or shepherd fellow adults. our society is social darwinism to a small extent and this is the case here, no? its sad, but a fact of life that some people arent going to live to be 80 for whatever reason.
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#278779 - 10/02/07 07:52 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
pinupmutant Offline
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The notion of "free will" is complicated, and I'm not sure that, in this particular country where adolescence has been stretched out from the age of eleven to the age of thirty five and beyond, we can call many Americans adults with free will anymore.

In essence, what you're saying is that those who are weak are only worth of scorn, and they get what they deserve. Is that about right?

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#278780 - 10/02/07 07:55 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
christianxxx Offline
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those who are weak are free to make their own choices on who they ally or align themselves with. but then they have to live with those choices. its ultimately their decision as adults for the choices they make. but i agree with the second part of your statement, that they do reap what they sow.
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#278781 - 10/02/07 08:17 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
JRV Offline
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Registered: 08/03/03
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Quote:

In the main, the sex industry attracts women who are troubled and disenfranchised: emotionally, financially, educationally, etc.




The industry doesn't attract them. They come to it because it is the most money they can earn without traditional job skills. In every case it's a big step up in income.

XXXbit said “young people piss away opportunities everyday”. It does seem likely that many wouldn't do porn had they not squandered opportunities earlier: how is it you can be out on your own after high school no more skilled than a rookie burger flip? But that's all well before the porn decision: when that choice is made it's likely that opportunities to go to college or learn a skilled trade & such were skipped long ago.

Quote:


the number of true porn exhibitionists--women, in other words, who would do this sort of thing for the sort of pay they would receive at the other jobs they are qualified to do (usually Starbucks cashier work)--are few (and of those, probably most have psych problems, traumatic pasts, etc.).




So what? That's a useless statement to make: “they wouldn't do this if they made only retail cashier's money.” Well, they don't make retail cashier money in porn – they can make an order of magnitude more in porn if their sphincter is flexible.

That's why Haley got into porn incidentally: a Blockbuster clerk doesn't isn't paid nearly as much, not enough to pay the bills in her case, and porn was apparently the best job she could find with her job skills at that time.

The comment on “psych problems” is utterly groundless speculation, with no basis whatsoever. Use Occam's razor. These girls have some jobs offers, one of which pays ten times as much as the others. Some girls are raised with enough inhibitions to say No even to that, some are not.

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Porn work doesn't necessarily create the problems these women have, but it very often exacerbates them, and in almost no cases does it help to rectify them. You might think of it as a petri dish for growing desperation. You need the seeds, but the porn industry just provides a fertile environment that stimulates their growth.




It sounds like you're describing college sports exploiting kids for financial gain.
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#278782 - 10/02/07 08:22 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
JRV Offline
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Registered: 08/03/03
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Quote:


Most of the confusion and misinformation regarding this story can be blamed on you, Luke Ford. Once again, nice job Putz.



Jeff at least pays the girls an amount they agree on.
Luke just exploits them to make himself some money without giving anything back.
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#278783 - 10/02/07 08:40 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
k1ng Offline
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Registered: 03/22/06
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Quote:

Really? None of you are responsible?

Are habitual cocaine users, by driving the demand for coca leaf production, contributing to cartel violence in Columbia and Bolivia and environmental damage as virgin forests are clear cut to make way for coca? Uh-huh.

Are consumers who want cheap sneakers and plastic shit from Walmart supporting child labor in the process? You betcha.

If you drink Napa or Sonoma wine, did a Mexican die in the desert after paying a grand to a coyote for passage so he could work in vineyard for shit pay? Yup.

Do you, porn consumers of XPT, by consuming porn which continues to reach for new lows of violence, degradation, and gross-out cheap stunts, contribute to a cycle of traumatization of already fucked-up young people? Yes, you do.

Fuck Jesus and Shelley Lubben. This is a website that celebrates misanthropy in all its forms. If you're all the badasses that you make yourselves out to be daily basis, then put your money where your mouth is, and simply say:

"Yes, I help porn whores hit rock bottom with every purchase I make, and you know what? I don't care."








If we, as porn consumers, are to blame for all the porn burnouts, suicides, over doses, etc. does it also work in reverse? Do we get credit for the ones that find success after the biz? Like the ones that have the foresight to use the money they earn from our porn purchases for good furthering their education, buying real estate, investing etc or whatever. I know the numbers aren't in our favor here but if we can lift up just one ex porn girl by buying "Double Anal Ass Felching Overload 17" it's all worth it.

I buy electricity. Should I feel guilty about prisoners that are executed in the electric chair because I prop up the electric company and enable their continuation? Should all employees of Steak Knife Company A be in jail for making such sharp knives accessible to murderers?



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#278784 - 10/02/07 09:49 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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#278785 - 10/02/07 10:12 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Stevie Why Offline
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Did I just miss it, or what has been confirmed that Maryam died from?
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#278786 - 10/02/07 10:23 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Registered: 04/14/06
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Quote:

Did I just miss it, or what has been confirmed that Maryam died from?




As far as I can tell ... Haley died because I jerked off to Cherish & Cali Marie.




Later tonight some other poor girl will be closer to death because I'm going to watch some Madison Monroe.

Alert the morgues.
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#278787 - 10/02/07 10:28 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Holly Randall Offline
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Quote:

the world problem is all y'all have that mcdonals responsible mentality. you know the mentality that bitches burning they coochie with hot cocoa or coffie is the responsiblity of the man who make the coffie too hot not the dumb cunt who spill it all over herself.

in this world coffie hot and bitches die.

end of story




This is why I love you, Guapo!!

I'm not even going to comment on this thread because my argument has already been stated in much more eloquent ways than I could have come up with-- I have nothing to say that hasn't already been said. And though I never met Haley, I'm of course saddened by the news and my heart goes out to those who loved her.
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#278788 - 10/02/07 11:21 PM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
DownWithFags Offline
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Registered: 10/02/07
Posts: 52
bottom line is we did not kill her i for one did not want her dead she has to make her own choices and stand by them yes i am sorry that she made some bad ones but what can i do about it

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#278789 - 10/03/07 12:03 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Uomo Grassissimo!! Offline
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Registered: 04/14/06
Posts: 14755
Loc: Busy downloading [LEGALLY!]
What you can do: Ask Vanessa for a date!!

She's so sad about Haley.

It'll make her day.



<click to PM Vanessa!!>
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#278790 - 10/03/07 12:46 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
Dean Wormer Offline
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Shit does this mean baseball fans are responsible for Donnie Moore's suicide three years after he blew a game that would have put the California Angels into the World Series?
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#278791 - 10/03/07 12:53 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Yeah. And the Jews are responsible for the Holocaust. The Armenians for their massacre. And the Africans for slavery.

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#278792 - 10/03/07 01:04 AM Some final thoughts on Victims and Perpetrators
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Good Friends of XPT:

Our thinking can be distorted in assessing cases like this by the "black and white", or absolute, application of certain concepts, namely, innocence and guilt. This can distort the quotidian fact that real life cases actually fall along a spectrum.

This conception of a spectrum allows, then, that a victim may not be wholly innocent, and a perpetrator not wholly guilty. That leaves untouched the thought that a victim, though not wholly innocent, can be victimized nonetheless, and that a perpetrator, though not wholly culpable, may perpetrate against the victim all the same.

The parables of The Garden of Eden and of Faust are classical illustrations:

The Serpent of course does not compel Eve by force to taste of the apple. Rather, he tempts Eve by stimulating unsavory desires that exist in embryo within her. That Eve tastes of the apple and is cast out of Eden is obviously partly her own fault--she did, after all, decide to eat the apple. All the same, the Serpent's deed--that of tempting Eve--is patently evil, as he knows the consequences to Eve, if he succeeds in tempting her, will be dramatic (for her, anyway). To this extent, Eve is the victim of the Serpent's exhortations, though she is certainly not wholly innocent.

Similarly, Mephistopheles does not force Dr. Faust to sign away his soul to the Devil, but rather tempts him to give in to his own greed--in this case, for knowledge; for sex workers, the temptations are usually easy money and attention. Again, Mephistopheles knows the consequences to Faust will be serious, but he forges ahead self-interestedly anyway: obviously an evil act.

The Serpent and Mephistopheles are thus nourishers of the evil within humankind. They exploit the weaknesses of Eve and Faust, respectively. To do so, of course there has to be something to exploit in the first place. That's just to say, Eve and Faust have weaknesses in their character--they are really anything but perfect. And those weaknesses are preyed upon.

I trust it's clear enough how these thoughts, mutatis mutandi, apply to the adult industry (not to mention, with some differences, the illegal narcotics industry). Simplifications have of course been made, and surely inaccuracies and distortions remain. But it is a step in the right direction I hope.

Thank you all for your thoughts.

I wish you well.



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#278793 - 10/03/07 01:14 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Maryam Haley didn't belong in porn. She obviously didn't possess the emotional armour for it. She belonged as someone's wife. And she could have been. Easily. The recriminations from this will run and run, because as a "lamb to the slaughter", she's perfect fodder for the Lubbens of this world... but sorry, I don't buy it.

I don't know why these girls make the choices they do. It's undeniably tragic, but blaming porn consumers is pathetic. It's women that wield the sexual power in this (civilized, western) world. Behind every girl like Maryam there are always the men she left in her wake, the nice guys who would have taken care of her, but that she showed no interest in.

It's because of girls like Maryam that half of us are such bitter, cynical fucks in the first place. So am I going to share in the blame? No fucking way.
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#278794 - 10/03/07 01:37 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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No, it was Dave Henderson.
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#278795 - 10/03/07 01:56 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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#278796 - 10/03/07 02:04 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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I think we're losing sight of something here people...

Yes, Haley Page was a good whore, and from all accounts a very sweet girl who deserved none of the shit she got in her life.

But let's not become Lubbens and blow this out of proportion.

There's much bigger tragedies happening all around us.

We live in a world where people, both individuals and governments. do extremely fucked up things to people every day.

Iraq. Afghanistan. Somalia. Darfur. The list is endless.

How many hundreds of millions died in the thirty years between 1914-1945?

Haley's death was a tragedy. I hope she's at peace. She will be missed.

But let's keep it in perspective.

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#278797 - 10/03/07 02:31 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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#278798 - 10/03/07 02:33 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Shelley Lubben is keeping everything in perspective. Porn caused all those deaths between 1914-1945.
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#278799 - 10/03/07 02:39 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Ahhh, yes. It was the tremendous output of the Reichspornamt, no doubt, that sent Gavrilo Princip over the edge. How silly of me.

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#278800 - 10/03/07 02:44 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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Shelley Lubben is keeping everything in perspective. Porn caused all those deaths between 1914-1945.




of course! Didn't you know? Hitler had a gassing and immolation fetish. The SS were just a bunch of production assistants. They all kept lube and paper towels on them and knew how to hold a C-light better than anyone else.

oh wait..... nope porn has never killed anyone. The Lubbens of the world just love to lay claim and blame to tragedy like all fascist zealots. Every time there is a tragedy in porn they try to make it their Reichstag.
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#278801 - 10/03/07 04:08 AM Re: Some final thoughts on Victims and Perpetrator
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Similarly, Mephistopheles does not force Dr. Faust to sign away his soul to the Devil, but rather tempts him to give in to his own greed



OK, this argument is a lot better, but there are still some isssues: it's not that black & white.

The first thought: what of Blackwater tempting their hires to become mercenaries?

But also, what of Wal-Mart? I'm sure there's some job there that most of the girls could do instead, but just how much better is it really? You can't live on minimum-wage money and go to school to ever improve - it's the minimum wage trap. By offering someone like Haley a minimum-wage alternative to porn they condemn them to never moving forward in life. Porn may have offered Haley a chance that no one else ever offered, and the fact she didn't take advantage of the chance doesn't mean it wasn't there.

The other problem with the argument is the idea that "porn is more dangerous or 'lower' than whatever they had before", and that's not necessarily the case. The hookers are probably a lot safer in porn - tested partners and not likely to be killed by a John - and some girls are finally able to dump loser boyfriends once they can make enough money on their own to live.

The biggest problem is that doing porn gives kids far more money than they're typically ready to deal with. This both allows bad choices and allows them to put off or avoid good choices.

Unfortunately there often wasn't good parenting when they were growing up - otherwise there would be good alternatives to porn instead of that being the only way out of minimum wage - and the kids just aren't equipped with that upbringing to steer them away from the bad things one can do when there's too much money available.

My belief is that by time the girls get to the point of doing porn their course in life has been long since set by their upbringing and only a few details remain to be filled in. If they fail miserably after leaving porn they're likely have failed just as miserably anyway. They're better with a chance forward - school money etc - than never getting that chance, even if few use it wisely. Porn may be the only chance many will ever have at making significant income.

PS. It's easy to say that doing porn is a bad choice. But it may tough to prove to someone making $50/day that porn is that bad at $1,200/day. The kids either need better upbringing to avoid the $50/day situation in the first place, or good enough discipline to take advantage of porn income and get more out of it than a few handbags.
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#278802 - 10/03/07 05:39 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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If we, as porn consumers, are to blame for all the porn burnouts, suicides, over doses, etc. does it also work in reverse? Do we get credit for the ones that find success after the biz? Like the ones that have the foresight to use the money they earn from our porn purchases for good furthering their education, buying real estate, investing etc or whatever. I know the numbers aren't in our favor here but if we can lift up just one ex porn girl by buying "Double Anal Ass Felching Overload 17" it's all worth it.




It's as you said - the numbers aren't on your side. How many success stories are there?

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I don't know; if you were Catholic you probably would.

I gather that the majority of XPTers are moral relativists, "all questions of ethical behavior are subjective, morality is meaningless, etc" when it comes to their own porn consumption, but are moral absolutists when it comes to the women and girls who choose to do porn: they are whores with no souls.

Isn't that just slightly hypocritical?

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#278803 - 10/03/07 06:29 AM Re: Porn and Suffering: Reflections on Maryam Hale
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I gather that the majority of XPTers are moral relativists, "all questions of ethical behavior are subjective, morality is meaningless, etc" when it comes to their own porn consumption, but are moral absolutists when it comes to the women and girls who choose to do porn: they are whores with no souls.

Isn't that just slightly hypocritical?




Speaking as a porn consumer, and someone who despises moral relativism, I reject the comparison completely. I see nothing immoral about either consuming porn or appearing in it. I think being in porn is a harmful thing for all but the most emotionally numb/hardened people to do to themselves, but just because I buy the product does not mean I bear any responsibility for that. Yes, if no-one bought porn, there would be no money to temp these girls in, but likewise, if none of them were willing to do porn, there would be no product for me to buy. Which came first, the chicken or the egg? I see it as morally neutral.

The sex industry has always been supply-led. Demand is constantly high. It's the ever-increasing supply of girls willing to sell themselves on the cheap that has fueled the booming industry of recent decades. The time when desperation and poverty drove supply is long past, people who consider themselves "poor" in a western country don't know what poor is. Nowadays they're doing it for a nicer lifestyle than they could afford at Wal-Mart. Should we lament the fact that women got their independence, and this is what some of them chose to do with it?

I might also add that this is really puzzling coming from you. You've always played the contented former hooker, not the victim. If you're happy enough with your past sex-work decisions, how does this work? Is it that when a girl sells herself and feels fine about it, that was the decision of a strong, independent woman, but if she's miserable, then the customers are to blame? Who's the hypocrite here?
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