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230. kensabe

Hi everyone. I just communicated with Maryam's mother who said she got the official autopsy report. Officially, Maryam's cause of death is UNKNOWN. There were no signs of trauma on her body and she only had trace amounts of tylenol in her system. She had no other drugs in her system. According to the report, her cause of death is a mystery. That sure doesn't bring a lot of closure to any of us, but it does answer the main question about a drug overdose.

Mark, as far as I know Maryam didn't attend AA meetings, and probably wouldn't have done so in northern California. What she needed probably during her time with Chico was good friends who could help her get out of that relationship. However, I don't blame any of her friends in or out of the industry who weren't able to save her, because it's almost impossible to get someone to change lifestyles or get out of a destructive relationship. I certainly could have done more for her myself.

Maryanne, thank you for your kind words. I loved your kick-ass comments to the joker.

Joker, I'm a little afraid to find out who you are if it's true I know you. If you can desist from the trash talk, I wouldn't mind communicating with you. I'm open-minded but not a masochist.

Love to you all.
Saturday, July 26th, 2008 @ 2:16pm



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I'll give you the information that I have so you can weigh it against credibility. Maryam's mother told me about the autopsy report, though I don't think she would have lied to me. I did see the hospital report, which also indicated no narcotics or intoxicants in her system. Maryam's mother told me that she helped prepare Maryam's body for burial just before the funeral, and there were no marks anywhere on her body. In the weeks before her death she apparently was traveling with Chico, and they were on their way back to L.A. when they stopped for a night in King City just south of San Jose. Chico told the authorities that he noticed Maryam was not breathing early in the morning and called the motel office, and then took her to the ER in the rental car they were driving. I'm not sure if she was still alive when she was admitted to the ER. The police held Chico for a few hours, maybe overnight, because the rental car they were using had been reported stolen, since the car was overdue to be turned in. The police didn't hold him very long, though. I never heard what kind of suspicions they had, but apparently there was not enough evidence to charge Chico with any crime.

Maryam had strong will power. One theory I have is that she felt she could not break away from Chico, and willed herself to die. That sounds far-fetched, but knowing her, if she wanted something bad enough she usually found a way to get it. She may not have done anything physical to provoke her own death, but her desire to live may have vanished, at least for a period of time, long enough for her to just give up. I can't think of any other explanation, not yet anyway. The mystery deepens a bit knowing that he committed suicide about a month later by overdosing on methadone. It is my understanding that Maryam was taking a methadone medication as treatment for an oxycontin addiction. Did he overdose on her pills? And why didn't she have any methadone in her system? I don't think the police or the autopsy report would have covered up an overdose on her part and quickly establish one for him. After Chico died, I don't think the police wanted to spend any more time on the case, so we probably won't find out what their investigation had turned up to that point.

I know I'll want to learn more about the circumstances of her death later, when I'm over the denial stage. That will begin an even more painful stage of grief, because I won't have the sanctuary of the fantasy that she might still be alive. When it finally hits home that she is truly gone, then I'll want to know more about her final days. I can hardly wait for the fun to begin.
Wednesday, July 30th, 2008 @ 12:56am