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1. Be cool
Play hard to get, even if it means tea-bagging your junk in an icy drink (not hers) when she leaves to go to the restroom. She wants to date an equal not a fan. Be as nonchalant as you can without being a dick.

Whatever you do don’t show her off. She know’s she’s a prize. Don’t use her to impress your crew and don’t mention what she does in public unless she does. Introducing her as “Mary, from Massive Objects Mary dotcom,” will end your evening fast.

2. Be a gentleman
She works in places where people glance at her drivers license and then ask her to strip off (like the DMV). She will be particularly vulnerable to old-school charm. Flowers, cards and notes go a long way, as long as they’re meant sincerely. She will want to know that you like her despite of, not because of, what she does.

If she tells you her real name she trusts you. Don’t use it in public unless she does. Performers have to guard their identity’s and switch between persona’s for good reason. She knows the waiter recognized her when she walked in, and will show up at her house if he can use her real name to find out where she lives. Kill him now, she’ll thank you later.

Take your romantic inspiration from Lionel Richie’s ‘Three Times a Lady’, not The Analog Brothers ‘Pimp to Eat’.

3. Make her chase you
There’s nothing a woman finds more attractive than a guy they can’t get. Let her make all the moves. She will, and you’ll look cooler than all the guys chasing her.

Whenever I’ve had performers flirting with me I’ve been in situations where responding in kind would be seen as unprofessional. It could be my aftershave that makes them want me, I wear Sex Panther which is illegal in nine countries, but it was probably because I was hard to get.

4. Don’t become a suitcase pimp
Show no interest in getting into the adult industry yourself or managing her career. A lot of guys see performers as a meal ticket and if you give off that vibe she’ll run away. Even offering to help drive her to a photo-shoot, or spend all her money on your car, can set off alarm bells.

To avoid looking like a suitcase pimp avoid sunglasses unless you’re outside and it’s sunny, wearing untucked, open-necked shirts made of shiny fabric, or being in a band that doesn’t sell enough records to keep you fully occupied.

5. Clean your whip
If you don’t have nice wheels at least keep them clean. There’s a lot of money in porn, you’re going to have to park beside a lot of nice steel. In LA people check out your steed if they can’t be bothered to talk to you but want to work out what kind of person you are. LA’s fucked.

I can’t really explain this, but every woman I’ve ever met in the adult business has liked cars. I used to drive a European classic which attracted women like a free shoes, lose weight, fuck Brad Pitt promotion at the local mall. Respect your ride.

6. Hide your stash
De-porn your apartment. Porn is work for her. If she’s into it she’ll lead the way and provide it for free. Assume she’s not and eliminate the risk of getting it wrong. Once again the less of a fan you appear the better.

She’ll see fantasizing over people she knows as akin to cheating. Pointing out that she’s had sex with the people on the DVD’s she’s bitching about, while I’m totally monogamous won’t win the argument. Nor will pointing out that claiming to be a Catholic is a bit strong Lena, given how you make your fucking money? Christ you’re a hypocrite.

7. Don’t assume
Forget what she does when you’re talking to her - even if it’s playing on a plasma screen just over her right shoulder. If you treat her like a stereotype you’ll mark yourself out as an asshole and provide evidence that you’re not listening to what she’s saying.

Let her talk and then latch onto the things she says. Don’t worry if you get it wrong to start with, listening is hard (tip - watch Oprah, they do it on there.) Practice on less attractive women and build up to one your really want to be, you know, on.

8. Be smart
This is psychology. People assume she’s stupid because she’s sexual. She hates that, and goes out of her way to appear smart. Therefore if you appear smart, you become the kind of man she thinks she should be with, even if you’re not ideal in other regards. Even if she’s not smart, she’ll be flattered that someone who appears to be is interested in what she’s thinking.

Take a breath. You might be feeling dizzy. That’s okay - I am blowing your mind.

9. Be mainstream
Porn stars often take the ‘No one outside the industry understands this’ view and resolve to date only performers after a string of failed relationships. With these people you’ve got no chance. Luckily the majority of people don’t feel this way and want to date people who are as mainstream as possible.

The most attractive partners for women in the industry are men who are more famous than they are, and guys with good, respectable jobs. Cops, doctors, teachers and other totally average occupations have a bizarre reverse glamour for people inside the jizz-bizz.

Whatever you say, don’t say you’re unemployed. It says suitcase pimp faster than a furry hat and a bass guitar riff.

10. Don’t look
One of my best friends tells his partner “I promised to be faithful, not blind” whenever she catches him looking. She laughs. It won’t work with a performer.

Women who are (brutally) judged on their looks, are very wary of men who might only want to be with them because of how they look. If you stare at every teenage Lycra-clad-Happy-Meal that walks by, you’ll give off a vibe that you’re looking for the next hot thing. She wants to know you’re into her and her alone. Especially when she stops starving herself and living in the gym.

Here’s a tip for creating that effect. Stare at her forehead and try to count the follicles on her hairline. The slowly scanning gaze this creates will look almost identical to falling in love from her perspective.

11. Be boring
If you’ve followed all the advice to this point you’ll be going to bed with her soon. Keep it simple.

Once again, she’s going to want to know you’re in bed with her - not the fantasy she projects at work. Be loving, and keep it tame - lots of kissing. Leave the gasmask and ‘Mini Replica Vibrating Pope’ in the closet for now.

The wild stuff might never happen. Some performers like to keep what they do in their private life and at work as different as possible. Be very careful about spicing it up, she’ll lead the way when she’s ready. If she comes home to find that you’ve got a Darth Vader mask on and have lubricated the faucets you will scare her off.

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No.

Don't do it. Just don't.

Porn performers are like elephants. Fun to look at, maybe okay to ride once or twice, but you do not want to take one home.

Trust me on this.

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Same advice in the song White Lines by Grandmaster Melle Mel & The Furious Five.

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21. Be prepared to catch an STD.

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No.

Don't do it. Just don't.

Porn performers are like elephants. Fun to look at, maybe okay to ride once or twice, but you do not want to take one home.

Trust me on this.

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Oh that's fuckin funny. Like an Elepahnt...

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The friend I've known the longest (30+ yrs) has been dating a retired performer for over a year and while she's a train wreck (kid, fucked up family, shitty job, etc) she is actually pretty intelligent, fun to hang with, easy going and all around a decent and interesting person. While I'm sure it's going nowhere long-term, nothing is so broken that he wants to end it. And she has the best stories about soooo many people!
She also is good for bringing old friends to parties just to make everyone gawk at the porners.
My friend has yet to report any STDs, drug use, insanity, theft, infidelity, or an inability to to control her gag reflex. And she does anal.

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Damaged, you said it: "retired". That means she's older and had some time to try and get her shit together. Even so she's still a trainwreck says a lot also. Even with the added years and maturity figured in, there are still issues. Nuff said.

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all chicks are a mess in general.

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And, we guys are so grounded and stable.

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Quoted for truth.

If your idea of a fun night in is not having sex because she's raw from shooting too many scenes or has an infection, then hey, date a pornstar.

Tod's right.

Pornstars are for looking at or playing with. They are not for taking home long term unless you want serious self-esteem issues to rival hers.

Could you seriously go down on one and not wonder whose cock was in there last?

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Why is this now posted on Lukeisback.com with the author as "Luke is Back?" Does this guy actually publish anything of his own writing

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or does he just surf around and snag shit and put his name on it as "news?"

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Id go out with a pornstar just to see what the ride was like
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Ha Ha! You don't have to date a porn star to ride one, you can just rent!

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Why is this now posted on Lukeisback.com with the author as "Luke is Back?" Does this guy actually publish anything of his own writing or does he just surf around and snag shit and put his name on it as "news?"

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Why is this now posted on Lukeisback.com with the author as "Luke is Back?" Does this guy actually publish anything of his own writing or does he just surf around and snag shit and put his name on it as "news?"

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Reged: 05/01/06

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You registered here over a year ago and noticed that today ? Okaayyy...

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Seriously, is there not one single 'normal' porn star? Gia Jorgens seems to have a pretty level head, but I don't know her so what the fuck do I know? There must be at least one, said Diogenes.

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Seriously, is there not one single 'normal' porn star? Gia Jorgens seems to have a pretty level head, but I don't know her so what the fuck do I know? There must be at least one, said Diogenes.

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Eh. I'm boring.

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Boring in a pixie-ish, happy, smart, horny, slutty, hot, tiny, cute sort of way.

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Well, imagine how easy it would be for you or a million other people to replicate what I do and put me out of business? All you'd have to do is cut and paste from XPT and presto, you'll have 10,000 readers a day.

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I don't think I've ever read such a spirited defense of his actions. Luke, you sound riled by this assault on your journalistic integrity.

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Well, imagine how easy it would be for you or a million other people to replicate what I do and put me out of business? All you'd have to do is cut and paste from XPT and presto, you'll have 10,000 readers a day.

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I don't think I've ever read such a spirited defense of his actions. Luke, you sound riled by this assault on your journalist integrity.

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Beware!!!!




The one represented by the Tetragrammaton may strike us down for challenging his/her chosen convert!

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Is dating a pornstar anything like dating a stripper, are they all just really fucked up?

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How can you say that, Sergio? I find no evidence at all on this forum that any porners are at all fucked up.

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They are honest hardworking people who will make great parents someday.

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So their almost like a virus, they finds a home and grow in population.

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They're almost like a virus...........

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I had a friend from Austin TX who lived with his stripper gf. According to him, they made a "pact" before she moved in, and she actually abided by it quite well.


BUT, stripper gf's have many stripper friends ..... several of whom "had no where else to go". So he ended up with a house full of strippers - almost all of whom where thieves.

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I wish I had that kind of problem.

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Pussy-
She was "retired" about a week when they started dating.

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If i had a load of strippers at my place id see how nasty they would get for money

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I had a friend from Austin TX who lived with his stripper gf. According to him, they made a "pact" before she moved in, and she actually abided by it quite well.

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I had a friend from Austin TX who lived with his stripper gf. According to him, they made a "pact" before she moved in, and she actually abided by it quite well.

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What were the terms of the pact? If you steal from me, I'll fucking kill you?

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