Any time Holly has ever asked me to remove something about her from my website, I have always done so immediately. So everything that is still there about her (once she's had the chance to read it) has her tacit permission, even if she hates it. Over the years, I have written about Holly with a depth and passion and cruelty and love that I've never written about anyone. And that's because she allowed me to. No other woman would. If she abides by her latest post and I lose her as a friend, that will be my loss.

My post that attracted so much ire was inspired by Holly but was not about Holly. It was about larger ideas. If those ideas are uncomfortable and she and others want to ignore them and try to make this essay of mine about me trying to hurt her, then there's nothing I can do. I am going to publish my opinions even when they are unpopular.
Whether addiction is (best looked at) as a personal failing or as a disease is a worthy question. I, for one, am sick of lack of self-control being taken for granted as a disease.