this is a reply to anonymous dick.

What TJ has done he has brought upon himself. I'm sure that he is embarrassed right now and feeling like he wants the ground to swallow up and eat him. Maybe it will spur him on to change his behaviour.

Anyone can see that the messages that TJ sent to the girls involved could easily be taken the wrong way. Sending pictures of your cock to girls, hinting at scat-play, and various other sexual activities, to not just 1 girl, but SEVERAL girls is just plain weird.

I have been hearing through the grape-vine about TJ's mannerisms, and outright offensive messages long before this thread was started.

You say that 'telling him to back off', or dealing with this in a less public manor may have worked? I don't think so. The sheer number of girls that I have heard who say TJ has been repeatedly IM/Email/MySpace/PM ing them suggest that telling him to back off would just leave the path open for him to move on to the next girl.

It has probably done him good that this is out in the open, because like I said, I have been hearing people talk about him for weeks. It's his own behaviour that has affected his livelihood, not the behaviour of these porn girls.
It's one thing to start a nasty rumor about someone, it's quite another to report on the truth... If you don't want to be exposed as the sneaky perv. you are, it's a good idea to be a little more selective of the girls you send creepy messages to...simple. He sent them to tens of girls, of course some were not going to stand for it... that's the risk you take.
So TJ, just be careful who you ask to share their innermost thoughts with next time...