There is a certain personality to this place, and I think it is a bit more rough-and-tumble that you originally assumed. The Monkey Cage takes that quite a bit further yet - it is unwise to leave your back unguarded when posting in the Cage...

My suggestion is to make much use of the Search button. Not only have questions often been already answered but you might see how a thread is likely to go on a topic: if hoots of derision ended the last attempt to ask a certain question then the next attempt is likely to suffer the same fate...

Finally, you're making far too many broad assumptions about others. We don't all get along and we don't all like each other. Some aren't even porn fans.