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Speaking as a porn consumer, and someone who despises moral relativism, I reject the comparison completely. I see nothing immoral about either consuming porn or appearing in it. I think being in porn is a harmful thing for all but the most emotionally numb/hardened people to do to themselves, but just because I buy the product does not mean I bear any responsibility for that. Yes, if no-one bought porn, there would be no money to temp these girls in, but likewise, if none of them were willing to do porn, there would be no product for me to buy. Which came first, the chicken or the egg? I see it as morally neutral.



My inability to see eye to eye with you may be simply because I'm female and you're male, but when I read the above, I want to Why? Because what you've said can be distilled down to this: I know that the women (and men) I'm spankin' it to are fucked up, but that doesn't interfere with my ability to type one-handed. I think dehumanization just comes much more easily to men than it does to women.

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I might also add that this is really puzzling coming from you. You've always played the contented former hooker, not the victim. If you're happy enough with your past sex-work decisions, how does this work? Is it that when a girl sells herself and feels fine about it, that was the decision of a strong, independent woman, but if she's miserable, then the customers are to blame? Who's the hypocrite here?



If I ever gave the impression that I was a strong, contented former hooker, either you weren't reading that carefully, or I am not immune to the denial that so common to sex workers across the board. Realistically, out of dozens, I know maybe three or four women who were cut out to be whores, and it suits them just fine. In terms of national or global percentages, I'd estimate that the happy hooker represents about 3% total. Of course, no active whore will admit that, because she needs to tell herself she likes the work in order to do it, and if she's a very public persona like a porn star, it's bad marketing to say that she's only in it for the money and she actually hates her work.

Let me tell you something I learned along the way: the contented whores have customers who like contented whores and like women in general. The miserable whores get the misogynists who abuse them. You attract what you put out.

Oh, by the way, I never said I wasn't a hypocrite. I watch porn. I dislike the kind of porn that seems to be popular here -- I've got no patience for stupid 14 year old boy stuff like gaping and retarded skull fucking noises, and cum gargling, but I do like to watch anal and DPs and I get wet just by visualizing blowjobs. Obviously, I've watched porn with damaged people as participants. There's simply no way for me to know what their mental state is before I watch it. So yes, I'm to blame as well.